It’s in this chapter that good, positive masturbation techniques will be described. Methods of masturbating that, practised enough, will have the opposite effect of a poor self-satisfaction technique, by teaching your body how to refrain from ejaculating too quickly when it’s stimulated through sex.
The fundamental theory behind building arousal control through masturbation revolves around a technique called pleasure edging.
In the cause and effect section of this manual, I told you about the two factors of a bad masturbation technique that cause your body to become used to ejaculating quickly and weakly. They were: Duration and Frequency. In other words, how long masturbation lasts and how often you masturbate.
Pleasure edging involves controlling both of these factors and using them to teach your body to last for longer when being highly stimulated, instead of ejaculating too soon as it does when it’s used to a poor masturbation technique.
This approach and withdraw technique is repeated several times over a masturbation session to allow your body to become used to getting close to the PoNR, but instead of crossing it, continuing to be pleasured.
As the title of this chapter suggests, it’s practising these techniques often that will allow your mind and body to fully absorb them, and in turn enable you to use them easily and regularly to extend a sexual performance. Let’s go over the first pleasure edging exercise.
This exercise is performed while masturbating, so find a comfortable relaxed place to do it, just as you did with the self-awareness exercises earlier.
BASIC PLEASURE EDGING
Begin to masturbate. Lube, porn and any other arousal influences are optional with this exercise, so it’s up to you whether you include them. This exercise begins once you’ve entered the plateau stage of the pleasure scale (4-8).
1. Pay close attention to your arousal level as you masturbate. You should already be accustomed to identifying your arousal level on the pleasure scale through the use of the exercises in the Know Your Body, Know Yourself chapter.
2. After a few minutes of masturbating, you’ll begin to steadily climb the pleasure scale. But instead of moving through each level and approaching the PoNR, hover at number 7 for a few minutes. Do this by alternating the speed at which you masturbate and by changing where you grip your erect penis. Slow down the speed and grip lower down on your shaft to decrease your pleasure level, or increase the speed and grip closer to the head of your penis to heighten your pleasure level. Change both of these factors in whatever way is necessary to hover at number 7. If you feel yourself dripping to a 6, increase stimulation, but if you notice the orgasmic tension building to an 8 or 9, decrease the pleasure sensations.
4. After another couple of minutes, increase the stimulation again and climb the pleasure scale. As soon as you feel you’ve reached a 9, and are very close to the PoNR, stop all stimulation of your penis completely and allow your arousal level to drop to around 6 or 7.
5. Once in the mid-range plateau stage (6 or 7) repeat this exercise from step 2. After climbing the scale to 9, dropping back to a 6 and re-climbing to a 9 (in other words, completing steps 2-4 twice) you can masturbate past the PoNR and end your masturbation session.
How long this exercise should take in total depends on how long your usual masturbation session last.
For example, if you usually masturbate for 5 minutes, aim to complete this exercise twice in 10 minutes – twice the usual session length.
If, more often than not, you masturbate to ejaculation with 2 minutes, spend 4 minutes doing this exercise twice.