The reason so many men ejaculate before they’re ready comes down to their body’s inability to handle the orgasmic tension brought on by sex. During levels 4-8 on the pleasure scale (the plateau stage), this orgasmic tension builds and builds. Even slowing down the action or taking a quick break sometimes can’t completely reverse this build-up of sexual energy in the male. Because of this, the best method of extending a performance is to stop or severely slow the onset of orgasmic tension before it has a chance to take over and bring on certain ejaculation.
This breathing technique is used during sex to not only bring about and maintain the calm and focussed state we’ve already talked about, but also rapidly tackle a sudden “wave” of orgasmic tension. In other words, the often surprising moments during intercourse where you “feel the feeling” in your penis and around your body of an impending orgasm. You accidentally jump from a 5 or 6 on the pleasure scale to an 8 or 9, and have to fight to avoid ejaculation.
Once again, you can give it a try as you read along
The fundamentals of Live Action Breathing lie in the Deep Breathing technique we’ve already covered, but there a few key differences that strengthen that breathing style and make it more effective for use during sex.
Once sex has begun, continue to breathe deeply as you did in the Preparatory breathing during foreplay. Take 3 or 4 deep, slow sighs to induce a rapid relaxation in your body. Remember to follow the steps in the deep breathing section – belly before chest, don’t let your shoulders rise and fall, and try to think of each breath as in and out instead of up and down.
Every so often, identify which level of the pleasure scale you’re at. If you find yourself jumping up 2 steps instead of slowing transitioning one step at a time, reaffirm your relaxation and focus by using deep breathing. Here’s an important part. Whenever you feel a wave of orgasmic sensations in your penis, as previously mentioned above, change you.
breathing style as follows. Begin to take shallower in-breaths and deeper out-breaths. The in-breaths should last around 2 seconds, while the out-breaths last about 4. Use the same deep breathing technique, belly first etc., just change the in and out-breath lengths. This breathing pattern is essentially the opposite of hyper-ventilation, and halts the orgasmic stress by allowing the relaxation response of your nervous system to kick in.
Don’t force your breathing rhythm. You’ll find that after 20 seconds of doing the last step, you’ll naturally pause between each breath. This is a good sign, and indicates that your body has become more serene and focussed.
Return to the deep breathing technique once you’ve return to a safer level of arousal.
Here’s the best way to use these two breathing exercises. The first thing to do, is practice. It may sound boring, and you would probably like to go out and give them a shot while having sex, but practising and becoming familiar which these breathing styles is very important. First of all, practice them during masturbation.